Lest you think I've spent the week cavorting and indulging in the types of activities typical of a single girl living in Southern California (or anywhere else) that doesn't end up back at her house at night, I'll just dispel those rumors right now.
(The only men that have been involved in my week have been of the married and/or related-to-me variety.)
Tomorrow is supposed to be the annual Chino Christmas Parade. Weather permitting.
My girls are in the parade. Which means I'm in the parade.
And I'm perfectly okay with that. I mean, it starts ridiculously early, but whatever. The girls want to participate and we've done it for years and I'm willing to make the sacrifice for them. I love the organization and I want to support them however I can.
But it would be nice if the weather bumped the parade to next Saturday.
Although, there is a bit of prep involved in transforming a flat-bed trailer into a Winter Wonderland suitable for tweens and teens to sit on while crawling along the city streets.
Some of that prep has to be done the night before, and some of it can't be done until the morning of because everything could fly right out the back of the trailer when we're transporting it to the staging area.
One of the parents apparently doesn't quite understand that concept. Yesterday, she told me the girls were getting ready to set up the "float" so that it would be ready for Saturday. I tried to explain why they shouldn't do that. You know. Cuz it might rain and stuff. And when I told her the parade might be moved to next Saturday, she was upset. Because, of course, I should be able to control the weather, right? I mean, I obviously wasn't paying attention the day they taught that in my meteorology class back at Weber State. My bad.
This parent got frustrated and said, "I can't handle all this last minute stuff. I'm working 6 days a week right now. And I've got my husband's office Christmas party. And [this kid is doing this and that kid is doing that]. I'm busy. You're going to have to do it all."
Woah.
Remember that time when I told you I hadn't been home since MONDAY?
I've noticed an assumption among some of my friends and colleagues that, because I don't have a spouse or children, I am obviously not doing anything.
Free as a bird.
O how I wish!
When I do nothing but get up in the morning, work all day and come straight home, I am out of the house for twelve hours.
TWELVE.
Granted, it's my fault for living so far from work.
But, still. Twelve hours that I'm not at home. And that's when I don't have anything going on after work.
I'm the adult leader in Job's Daughters.
I'm in the Relief Society Presidency at church. Yeah, okay, so I'm the secretary, but still. It means meetings and stuff.
I've been staying at my mom's one night a week to take care of my grandmother while my mom has been taking a class.
I'm working with Bionic Products and that's starting to pick up a bit.
I'm in three different book clubs, one as an advisor, and that means I'm supposed to be reading or something.
And, oh yeah. I'm trying to finish my novel.
I'm thinking if I had a husband and kids, I'd have to give up sleep altogether. At this point, that only happens about once or twice a week anyway, so I suppose it wouldn't be hard to cut that out of my schedule.
Seriously. What's my problem? That mom was right. I have all the time in the world. I guess I just need to be a little more committed.
Although I really probably just need to be committed.

So...What misconceptions do people have about your life?


















22 comments:
My husband seems to think I'm the Scrubby Maid. By that I mean he picks his stuff up, and helps with dishes and laundry, but bathrooms and floors and scrubby stuff? He thinks I get that duty. Why? Because he gets the yard. Seasonally. Yep, that sounds awfully fair.
My husband thinks that because I have the weekends off that I don't work hard enough.
I would say the biggest misconception about me is that because I'm quiet people think I'm a snob or not very nice. I don't know why that's the assumption, but it is.
When I was single, people had the assumption that I had a busy social life and I didn't. I've always been a homebody! :-)
You sound busier than I am, and I have a husband and three kids. I'm impressed with all you do. Who needs sleep, right?
Did you by any chance catch Dr. Oz today?? he had a woman on who like you was the care taker of everyone and everything.. and was paying a high price for it. Learn to say NOOOOOO you can do it real loud and rude if ya want it feels sooo good... NOOOOOO
Stumbled over here form SITS....and yes, I feel your pain about people assuming that just because you are single and don't have kinds, you don't have anything going on in your life. It's one of my pet peeves! One of my favorites is "Well, you don't have a family..." Huh??? Remember to take time to care of YOU this weekend!!! Take care!
I don't have children or a husband either, and I actually had a co-worker say to me that I shouldn't expect everyone else in the office to work the nights and weekends like I do, "Because it interferes with THEIR family time."
I almost hit her. Yes, I'm single. No, I'm not a mom. But I have a life. And I have a FAMILY too, thank you.
I've heard things like that before...except I'm really not busy and have plenty of time.
Don't forget to take time for yourself. Sleep is good. :)
I hate it when people make assumptions. I know that I'm busy with my job and kids, but I look at people who do that, plus research/teaching/etc, or some of my single parent friends, and I realize my plate could be a lot fuller.
I had a friend who would always bail when it came to getting together, because she was "too busy." It was always frustrating to hear that because we both have kids, but she didn't work, volunteer, or do any other outside activities besides go to the gym, while I was working my full time job and being a mom. I always wished she could have fit some time in to see me.
In high school I was so quiet and shy that I got labeled as stuck-up.
Some people think that I don't do anything all day because I stayed home with my kids. I think they REALLY wonder what I do all day now that they are teenagers.
This is why the single people and the people without kids have to get stuck at work because it's not important for them to have time off.
Honestly I am prob the one wondering what single people do with all their free time...thanks for writing this to give me a glimpse into the single life and what i wish i had time to do! we are all busy just with diffrent things! good luck on the novel
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I get the exact same thing. I am alone, so obviously have no life!
I do think that single one is a big misconception. I've heard it about other people.
Now, I'm going to admit something that might be a misconception that I've been guilty of thinking - stay at home wives without children at home should be able to handle their hubbies personal business.
I think that what people think about me is their problem, but I love when they love me ;-)
Happy SITS....
My husband always needs me to be his little helper. I don't have to have his as a helper...matter of fact while I am still working in the evening he is watching something on the Sci Fi channel.
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You sound busier than me!! Definitely one of the misconceptions people have is that I'm Supermom. That's a huge misconception. I don't know why people assume that...because I have 4 kids and somehow I've managed to keep them alive? Perhaps.
Because I'm basically a stay-at-home mom (I do work part time), people have the same misconception about me. That I'm not all that busy. But, like you, I have a very full life and I'm very busy. I hear you!
Karen, your eyes are not deceiving you. :) I did change my blog design on Friday. (Glad you like it.)
Anyway, like Katie above me said, the biggest misconception about me is that because I'm generally quiet I'm automatically a snob or stuck up. It's weird.
Oh and did I know that you were LDS too?? :)
I am so happy that you posted this. I am married but childless and I get from my parent friends all the time...."how can you be so busy, you don't have children?" or you just don't get it, you don't have children?" Somehow is this a way for me to feel like I am complaining for no reason or better yet there is something wrong with me because I don't. I don't let it bother me as much anymore but have to say...just because I am not a Mom, I am busy and have a hard time managing everything going on in my life too.
Thanks for the blog :)
There is nothing that pisses me off more than when someone volunteers me to do something becaus, "Mandy doesnt' have kids, so she's not busy." Or, when you're the only single person at your job that's open 24 hours a day, 365 days a year, "Amanda doesn't have a family, she won't mind working on Thanksgiving, Christmas Eve and Christmas Day."
Uggghhh, sometimes marrieds can be so annoying! :P
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