Tuesday, January 15, 2013

That Whole Being Single Thing

It started with a question from my therapist, but it wasn't until my dad brought it up that I started to think there might be something the matter with me.

My dad and I were just chatting and catching up when he oh-so-casually asked if there are any men in my life these days.

I snorted. Snorted. And said, "No way."

The thing is, when I said "no way," I didn't say it like "no, all the men I know are idiots because they seriously undervalue my awesomeness as a woman."

Nope, I meant it in a "I could not, at the moment, think of anything worse than spending my free time with some stinky man who demands my attention and makes fun of me for watching The Bachelor" sort of way.

The weird thing is, I've been boy crazy since I was 4 years old.

For serious.

His name was Kyle and he ate crayons. So I ate crayons hoping he would notice me. He didn't and then his family moved away and I never saw him again.

All throughout my formative years, there was always at least one boy on my mind, and usually four or five. Of course, they very rarely returned my attention and the ones that did usually ended up being nothing but trouble.

But, honestly, BOY CRAZY.

They coined that term all for me.

Now, though? Nothing. Even when I'm surrounded by attractive, friendly, nice men, I could not care less. I am totally and completely uninterested. The idea of dating, let alone getting into a relationship, makes me feel all blah. Like, I'd rather be forced to sit through a marathon of Sacha Baron Cohen movies than go on a date with anyone.

Well, anyone except Tom Cruise. My love for him remains, always and forever.

But for the rest of them, there's nothing. Not even the tiniest of sparks.

It's a little unnerving.

Although I'm not willing to do anything about it right now since boys are icky.

Pretty much the only boy I want to be snuggling up with these days is this one:

Or Tom Cruise, of course.

You are awesome. And if you share this post, you'll be even awesomer!


  1. Sounds like my younger self with a crush on a film star:0) It's safer that way, but in the end I had to be brave and go out into the shivery real world! Good luck with finding that cuddle. x

  2. Rabbit poo is a LOT smaller than man poo... maybe that's why?

  3. It's more than okay to be okay with being single. Society's obsession with everyone pairing off and breeding is a little bizarre, when you really think about it. Especially since there seems to be some sort of arbitrary time pressure to it, too.

  4. Hey, there's nothing wrong with being a single gal. Enjoy it. And piffle to anyone who says any different. =o)

  5. Being single definitely has its advantages, I am not gonna disagree with that! I think you have the right attitude. Too many people think that all their problems will be solved once they find someone. Truth is, YOU are the only one who can be in charge of your happiness. Sure, falling in love will make you insanely happy... for a little while. Then, you and your SO have to figure out how to be happy alongside each other. Kudos to you for being happy with yourself and sure of who you are. Many, many married women in the world are severely lacking that quality.

  6. What's the saying? You're no bunny until some bunny loves you?

  7. These are the posts that I always feel weird about, not being single. But I love your attitude. I wish my sister would do this instead of being so desperate to just have a boyfriend she'll take any piece of crap that comes along.

  8. You ate crayons to get guy to notice you?!!! Now that's true love! Maybe the problem here is that you never got over Kyle. Why don't you look him up? :)

  9. Hey, I nominated you for a Liebster award. Find out more here: http://kelworthfiles.wordpress.com/2013/01/14/i-got-a-liebster-award/

  10. Coming from a married woman, there is a lot to say for being single, for one thing I'll take a cute, fuzzy bunny over a snoring partner anytime who came in moody from work. :-))

  11. I am a happily married woman but I can tell you if I was to lose my husband then I would be single for the rest of my life..........

  12. Oh Karen, it scares me how similar you and I are sometimes.

  13. It's great to feel satisfaction in being single, although much of society can't seem to understand why one would.

  14. We were living the same life! I've been there....and my guess was that I'd finally decided boy hunting (and even flirting, which I love) was more effort than reward. Also, I think we go through phases. My mom disagreed, and suggested I go to counseling for this "problem". But ya know, there's nothing wrong with funneling your energy toward making YOU (and bunnies) happy. And lusting after Tom Cruise (OMG have you seen Knight & Day?!)

  15. While I like being with my guy, I also like my alone time. I don't know if I could live 24/7 with him. He has his (bad) moments...then again, I'm sure I do too. ; )

  16. You're totally normal, I used to go in waves.

    just wait for a good one, or eternity will be a LONNNNNNNNNG time.

    ♥ Celina

  17. I absolutely love your attitude and I so wish I had been this mature when I was single. I was constantly on the lookout for my "one true love" that I got caught up in so many toxic relationships.

    Good for you, Karen, on finding happiness and satisfaction in your life the way it is. I wish so many single ladies felt the same way.

    And your rabbit....such cuteness!!! Did I tell you we got a rabbit too? He's a mini-lop. We actually thought he was a she because that's what the lady at the store told us. So when we took "her" in to be spayed, the nurse called and was like, "Everything went well....except your rabbit is a boy."

  18. I don't think I ever felt like this when I was single. I definitely liked dating; however, since I got married at the tender age of 24, I often wonder what I would be like now if I were single. Would I still love to date or would I be over it? Who knows.

    I'm with you about Sacha Baron Cohen. Had I known he was in Hugo, I probably never would've saw it. He disgusts me.

  19. Sometimes dating, or trying to date, just seems like work. And that's not fun.


"You know what they say. If you don't have anything nice to say about anybody, come sit by me."

~Clairee Belcher, Steel Magnolias

Related Posts Plugin for WordPress, Blogger...